Wednesday, March 09, 2011

What a Loss...

John 5:24 Verily, verily, I say unto you, He that heareth my word, and believeth on him that sent me, hath ever-lasting life, and shall not come into condemnation; but is passed from death unto life.
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Well it behooves me to say, I lost a dear friend in the writing world. Joan McNulty Pulver was a special person as all my virtual friends are to me, but she had a light. A shiny light that stood in the doorway when your entire room was dark; she lit the place.

Like so many others before me, she took me under her wing and nurtured our friendship. We never met in person but it really wasn’t necessary because she just had a way of making you feel like she was right in the room laughing and smiling with you.

When someone passes away, it reminds us of the finality of life. We know that if we are Christians and love the Lord, the person has gone on to a much better place than this and that they are no longer suffering with multiple illnesses, like Joan, that seemed to be hitting her a lot in the past year.

We go on day by day, but still, we feel like something is missing. Like our days won’t be the same because that person is no longer there as an arm of support. In the writing world, our arms of support are essential or you don’t have a leg to stand on. Joan was a dependable arm to hold onto and the place echoes with sounds because she is no longer physically present.

I also remember when I had lost another fellow writer, whose death hit me pretty hard. Miss Connie passed and we were all in there (WVU) saying how much we loved and missed her and I remember Joan coming in and saying, “She must’ve been really special. I can only hope I’m loved and thought of this way when I go.” I told her that boy was she! and she wasn’t going anywhere!!!

With each sickness, we lifted her up in prayer. With each virtual visit, she always had kind words to share. Her family is so lucky to have such a special mom, grandma, aunt, friend. They lost a major core of the very beating heart of the family and my prayers can only bring them comfort.

So on this sad day as I remember a friend, I need to remember also that she would not want me to be down. She would want me to laugh and smile and wish her godspeed, because again, she KNOWS she’s in a better place than any of us are down here on Earth.

Just knowing she isn’t here any more hurts in a somber way, but I know that a smile for her will carry her away to heights unknown. She will soar with angels and sing a new song in the realm of heaven. Let me tell you, God got a real special addition to heaven. He needed her more than we did down here. We have to remember her in light and love. We have to give her wings a breath of wind so she may rest, in peace.

Godspeed my friend *blows soft kisses your way*

10 comments:

liveyourwritingdream said...

Well said, Joni, and a wonderful tribute to Joan.

I loved her presence at ePress and will miss her.

She's in a better place....definitely!

My thoughts and prayers go out to her children, grandchildren, other relatives, and to all her friends, including all the ones at WVU, F2K, and ePress.

Hugs,
June

Yvonne said...

Thinking about you Joni. ((hugs)) This is a lovely tribute.

joni said...

We're family June. We lost one of our own. :(
*hugs* to you too during this time.

joni said...

Thanks Von,
This is for all of her family and the writing community. We lost a great woman and I just want her to know that is is loved! :)

benning said...

Well said, as a Friend, and a Writer, Joni. Joan will be missed by her Family, and by her many Friends.

I know I miss her. :(

*Hugs!*

joni said...

I know ya do buddy, and this is how we writer's mourn, we write. :)

This sure felt good getting it out there. :)

*hugs*

OtienoHongo said...

May she rest in peace. I wish you all the strength you require to go through this. God Bless.

joni said...

Thank you Otieno.
Been a rough week but strength is my armor. :)

Dayana said...

Hi, Joni. Wonderful tribute. As you well know I miss her very much. Thank you for inviting me here to take part and share your memories of Joan. I still think she's going to call me one night to talk about an edit process or something.

Any yes, God is beaming to have Joan with him of that I am sure.

Hugs and prayers all around,

Dayana AKA Shar from the WVU

*waves to Benning* Been a long time buddy. How's that book coming along?

joni said...

Shhh Shar is our little secret!
You are Dayana Knight! :)

I'm feeling better knowing she is at peace and smiling down on all of us. Just wish she were HERE laughing with us.

Visit any time! :)