Wednesday, February 01, 2012

TRUST...a fine line

Whoever wishes to keep a secret must hide the fact that he possesses one.
Johann Wolfgang Von Goethe

I’m a naive person when it comes to trusting people. I always try and give people the benefit of the doubt. I trust first get burned later, then trust again, only to get burned. People have always let me down. When I first began posting my writing on sites. That was one of my main issues, trusting something so precious as my writing, to a community of vultures. I found that they were not vultures at all, just a community of fellow writers.

I began my writing adventures in the Poetry community. A public community, visible for all, but you did need to be a member to post. I was an active member for about a year, when the wall of trust was broken. To me, trust is vital to the very breath of your being.  When it is breached, there is this stage of pain, a level of betrayal that will not be squelched, and you find it hard to ever trust again.

If an online poetry community can betray you, imagine the depth of pain you feel when someone within your bubble you call life betrays you. I don’t think you ever get over it and you wonder why you ever trusted to begin with. Breaching someones trust is  like cutting faith in humans in two, and there is no glue that can mend the severed gap that grew there. To me, trust is everything.

I have this blog and I put copyrights on it and trust people to respect me enough that if they think my work is worth borrowing, the least they can do is ask my permission, or there will be an abyss, never to be filled because of the blackness that fills the soul after there is a breach of trust.

Trust is everything to me. In writing and in my life’s acquaintances. When God said to turn the other cheek, I wonder if he was referring to the breaching of trust. Someone can wrong me and I can forgive quite easily sometimes, but when trust is broken, it may take years to build it back up again, only to find out that they do it over and over again, so how is trust built?

It took a while to build up trust of the virtual people in my life. I find them to be more honorable in their trusting ways. So as I continue to write, continue to post, my physical world will turn topsy-turvy as I move forward trying to find just one person in this physical world who I can trust. I found Mrs. Carol and my church family and they have not let me down, so it’s a matter of putting things into perspective and moving on. The process of elimination. Out with the old and in with the new.

How are you with trusting people? Have you ever been betrayed? 

I like the X-Files statement: TRUST NO ONE!

“I usually get my stuff from people who promised somebody else that they would keep it a secret.”
Walter Winchell


benning said...

Trust can be easily given, but, once breached, it is hard to regain. It must be guarded as a precious commodity.

"Trust, but verify" :)

benning said...

Trust in the Lord! All others pay cash. ;)


joni said...

That's the only thing I do trust in these days.

Tiggs said...

So true Joni & Benning--I am again guarding my trust--it has been severely broken several times in one week (different people).

The Lord is the only one to truly trust!

Thanks Joni!

joni said...

I'm on guard too, Tigs. As soon as you let them in, they betray you.

I'd rather be protective of my soul. It is reserved for my Savior. He NEVER lets me down! :)